America has never been shared. It’s big enough for everyone to play together nicely, but white men have been playing with it for 242 years, rarely–if ever–letting anyone else play with them.
That’s not sharing.
This country was originally founded by–and for–white men. There’s no denying that. Women and minorities had little or no rights for centuries. Based on the above data, we can see that white men still have not been willing to adequately share positions of power and influence with others. White men need to decide if they want to continue to keep this legacy alive, or if they genuinely want to share this country with the rest of us.
I imagine most white men who either don’t want to share the country–or are indifferent–simply believe that they would be worse off in an equal society. That’s not how things work. Right now, we are experiencing record inequality where the three richest Americans have the same amount of wealth as the poorest half of the U.S. population. And every election cycle, half of the population comes out to support the top 1% to continue this wealth inequality that they will never benefit from, whether they’re white, black, or purple. Republicans have a long history of enacting policies that benefit the wealthy at the expense of everyone else, and Trump is just the latest and greatest to continue that legacy.
While non-wealthy white men may benefit from the racial hierarchy that conservative politicians uphold, you are being crushed financially just like the rest of us. Instead of thinking your piece of the pie will shrink if women and minorities get their fair share, in reality, everyone’s piece of the pie grows as the wealth stops flowing almost exclusively to the top 1% and we’re able to build a stronger middle class. We are stronger, together, regardless of race or gender.
When it comes to wanting to share this country, white men generally fall into three different categories:
“Go back to your country!” – These are the obvious, outwardly bigoted white men who believe diversity is a weakness and that whites are a superior race. They believe this country should exclusively benefit white men. They march with Tiki torches, troll people online, commit acts of domestic terrorism, and are the face of white supremacy. These men cannot be reasoned with, and are radicalized extremists. These are the children who are asked to share their toys, but they refuse and throw a tantrum. Examples of white men in this category are David Duke, Richard Spencer, Donald Trump, Jeff Sessions, and just about any white male in the Trump administration.
“I can’t be racist. I have a black friend!” – These are the men who would like to believe they genuinely care about equality and generally treat people equally in their everyday lives, but support politicians who do the complete opposite. They like the theory of diversity and equality, but in practice, they aren’t willing to change their life in any way to make it happen. They enjoy their lives and the benefits they receive as a result of living in a white male-dominated society, and also fear how living in an equal society would negatively affect them. These men either stayed home during the 2016 election, voted third party, or even voted for Trump. They claim to be “fiscally conservative, but socially liberal”, but don’t understand how the two are not compatible since fiscally conservative policies are exactly what create the problems that socially liberal people are against. These men essentially want to have their cake (benefit from white supremacy) and eat it too (be seen as a good guy who isn’t one of those wack-job racists). These men indirectly contribute to the division and inequality they pretend to be against. These are the children who are asked to share, refuse to, but they find another toy they don’t like to give to the other child and act like they shared something. Examples of white men in this category are pretty much 70% of the white men you know.
“Welcome to the cookout!” – These are the men who understand the history of white supremacy in this country and are actively making changes in their lives to try and correct the problem. They speak up when others say racist/sexist/homophobic things. They support politicians and people who have a direct interest in diversity and equality. They educate themselves about and engage with people who are not like them. They don’t mind having uncomfortable conversations and understand that it is necessary to overcome our inequality and division. These are the children who like to see other kids happy and are ready to share their toys equally so that everyone has a chance to be as happy as they are. Examples of white men in this category are Tim Wise, Gregg Popovich, Chris Long, and Jim Wright (Stonekettle).
You either want to share this country, or you don’t. Like Yoda said, “Do, or do not. There is no try.” The 70% of white men who are “in the middle” are actually just helping those who don’t want to share the country. They help them by either directly voting for the same politicians, or by staying out of the way and not getting involved. If a kid refuses to share his toy with another kid, and you stay out of the way, you’re helping the selfish kid by allowing him to keep that toy. There is no such thing as an unbiased, neutral third party with regard to equality.
“If you are neutral in situations of injustice, you have chosen the side of the oppressor. If an elephant has its foot on the tail of a mouse and you say that you are neutral, the mouse will not appreciate your neutrality.” – Bishop Desmond Tutu
The sooner white men decide whether or not they want to share the country, the sooner we can come to a resolution about our inequality. If enough decide they don’t want to share, then I guess we can go to war and decide who stays and who goes. Of course, my preferred path is that white men simply realize that we’re all better off when we share this country as equals. But the current path we’re on where one side doesn’t want to share, the other does, and the ton of folks in the middle are just standing around doing nothing while politicians fleece every last one of us isn’t working. Make a decision and commit to it. Stop being lazy. If you don’t want to live in a country with black people, Mexicans, or gays, then stop being a coward and say so. Rip the band-aid off and let’s get it over with. But if you genuinely care about other people who don’t look, think, and pray like you and want to coexist, then commit to that idea and start acting like it. Share, or share not. There is no try.
I boycotted the NFL while my team won the Super Bowl, and I’d do it again
If owners are willing to sacrifice wins and profit in order to stand by their (backwards) values, why would I do the complete opposite and sacrifice my values…while giving them my money?
I watched a total of 13 seconds of the 2017 NFL season, and that was only because I didn’t want to miss the beginning of This Is Us. My wife and I were catching up on SNL and Desus and Mero during the game, but changed the channel at 10:15, which was when the show was supposed to start. Of course, the game ran a little late, and as if it were planned all along, my first live images of the 2017 NFL season were of my ex-favorite team, the Philadelphia Eagles, celebrating their first ever Super Bowl win in the 52-year history of Super Bowls.
And it sucked.
I made it through an entire season without watching one second of football, and in order to watch one of my favorite shows, I’d be forced to watch the culmination of all I had missed these past five months. It was the bitter icing on top of the colostomy bag I had been eating all season. But if given the opportunity, I’d go through it all again.
While waiting for This Is Us to start, I watched the post-game coverage and heard one of the announcers basically commend Eagles quarterback Nick Foles on the fact that he went from contemplating retirement a couple years ago to now winning the MVP of the Super Bowl. My first thought was “it’s amazing what you can do when you have the opportunity,” and it reminded me all over again why I boycotted in the first place.
I can’t count the number of times I heard NFL fans question Colin Kaepernick’s desire to play football as an excuse for why he wasn’t signed, and here we have a quarterback who–unlike Kaepernick–actually did think about leaving the game, and he is being lauded for his courageous act to continue playing and become a Super Bowl champion.
Despite being just a qualified, if not moreso, Kaepernick was not given the same opportunity as Foles because the NFL owners were more interested in silencing his voice than they were in improving their teams. It could have easily been Kaepernick filling in for the fallen Carson Wentz and eventually hoisting the Lombardi Trophy for the Eagles, which would have been one of the most compelling stories in recent sports history. But the team, along with the other 31 in the league, have refused to even invite Kaepernick in for a workout for the past 11 months and 5 days since he became a free agent.
Like former MLBPA Executive Director Marvin Miller once said, I don’t think people truly understand what it means when teams band together and refuse to sign free agents.
“Most people don’t understand what that collusive effort meant,” Miller said.
“That it was an agreement not to improve your team. That it was an agreement that no matter how important these free agents are, superstars available to improve your team, to fill in holes on a team that could otherwise be a pennant contender, it was an agreement to NOT, under any circumstances, make an offer to any free agent, no matter how good he is. And that is really a conspiracy to fix the pennant race. And I think, in terms of scandalous proportions, that collusive conspiracy really was far worse than what is generally conceded to be the worst scandal, the Black Sox scandal, involving 8 players. This involved all 26 owners and all their officials and not for one series, but for 3 consecutive and possibly 4 years.”
The same could be said of any time a group of owners decides to collude. Whether it is to keep an entire race of people out of the league, a group of a dozen free agents, or even one player.
In some ways, pro sports owners are more principled than their fans. They have historically been more willing to place their own personal beliefs ahead of profits and winning. For 60 years, MLB owners each had the opportunity to sign the most talented players alive and win championship after championship. They instead elected to band together, stuck by their “values”, and kept black players off of their clubs.
If owners are consistently willing to sacrifice wins and profit in order to stand by their (backwards) values, why would I do the complete opposite and sacrifice my values…while giving them my money? If we don’t boycott when they stand by their poor values, the owners sacrifice nothing, while we sacrifice our own values and our money, all in the name of entertainment.
I fully understand that sports is an outlet for a lot of people, and without it, there isn’t much positive to look to, especially nowadays. It has always been an escape and a distraction from the sometimes harsh realities of life as most entertainment is. Baseball has always been one of the go-to national distractions we’ve had going all the way back to World War I. Sports makes people happy, and most importantly, it gives people hope, no matter how superficial. The hope that it’ll be your team winning it all and that you’ll be able to celebrate and have pride in your city as the champion.
I get it. I really do.
And that’s exactly why this entire ordeal has sucked. Because I’ve been torn between my love of sport, and my desire to see an end to social inequality. I know people want to just be able to escape and celebrate and enjoy their lives, but on the other hand, I know what it means to support an organization engaged in silencing one of the most prominent Civil Rights leaders we have today. I hate that the NFL put me in this situation, and I especially hate that the Eagles are taking part in that silencing, depriving me of the opportunity to celebrate along with 99.99% of the people I know.
I boycott because something has to change. People think that problems will just disappear or even dissipate with time if we just ignore them, but that’s not how problems work. Our racial issues in this country have dissipated only because people acted to make that happen. If there were no MLKs, or Frederick Douglasses, or Nat Turners, we sure as hell wouldn’t be where we are right now with regard to race. I’m sure people thought Nazis would just go away if we left them alone, and yet here they are creeping their way back into our society because we don’t want to change anything about how we live our lives.
I boycott in the hopes that others will join me, and I want to thank the folks I know who have. Through all of this, I’ve basically shifted my allegiance from the NFL and the Eagles to the the sport of social justice, as corny as that may sound. Politics and sports have always had more in common than not, and instead of rooting for a sports team to win, I’ve decided to devote my time to rooting for justice to prevail in this country. And I can’t do that while supporting the NFL, no matter how many championships the Eagles win.
From hated to hero: Why it takes decades for America to embrace black leaders
America has had a horrible habit of rejecting young black voices and waiting until decades later to realize they all had a point.
President George W. Bush referred to Muhammad Ali as a “man of peace” when he tied the Medal of Freedom around the late boxer’s neck in 2005. Nine years before that, Ali was honored by lighting the Olympic torch to open the 1996 Summer Olympics in Atlanta. 29 years before that, the greatest boxer of all time was the most hated man in America for doing exactly what Donald Trump is celebrated for today: Telling it like like it is.
Ali was very blunt about the inequality that existed here in America and famously refused induction into the military in 1967, citing the following:
“I ain’t draft dodging. I ain’t burning no flag. I ain’t running to Canada. I’m staying right here. You want to send me to jail? Fine, you go right ahead. I’ve been in jail for 400 years. I could be there for 4 or 5 more, but I ain’t going no 10,000 miles to help murder and kill other poor people. If I want to die, I’ll die right here, right now, fightin’ you, if I want to die. You my enemy, not no Chinese, no Vietcong, no Japanese. You my opposer when I want freedom. You my opposer when I want justice. You my opposer when I want equality. Want me to go somewhere and fight for you? You won’t even stand up for me right here in America, for my rights and my religious beliefs. You won’t even stand up for my right here at home.”
Ali sits on a mile-long list of black leaders who were once spat on by most Americans while they spoke out against racial inequality, yet were lauded as heroes decades later by the next generation who had somehow awakened to the wrongs of their forebearers, as if to say that time and old age–or death–are the only things that make black voices palatable. America has had a horrible habit of rejecting young black voices and waiting until they are dead or reach old age to realize they had a point.
Ali, Jackie Robinson, Frederick Douglass, Rosa Parks, Martin Luther King, Jr., Harriet Tubman, and a host of others were labeled disruptive, divisive, criminals, anti-American, and every racial slur known to man whenever they dared fix their mouths to plead for the only country they’ve ever known to treat them as equals. Decades later, they were honored with days dedicated to recognizing their legacies, had streets and schools named after them, and were labeled as heroes and shining examples of what America should be.
It seems like we prematurely praise white leaders while prematurely condemning the black ones.
King’s message didn’t suddenly change when he was shot and killed. Ali didn’t soften his stance on white America even as Parkinson’s disease silenced his once immutable voice. Robinson actually grew more jaded with his country as he grew older and wrote about how he would never stand for the National Anthem in his autobiography. If the message didn’t change, why are black leaders suddenly accepted and embraced by society when they die or become senior citizens?
This doesn’t happen with white people who are hated by most Americans early in life. In fact, it’s becoming the opposite where white leaders like Christopher Columbus, Robert E. Lee, and other Confederate leaders who were once celebrated are now being recognized as dishonorable by the majority of Americans. It seems like we prematurely praise white leaders while prematurely condemning the black ones.
Whether intentional or not, there has been an historic knee-jerk reaction to condemn anyone who speaks up against white supremacy. No matter the style or method, saying “please treat us equally” has always elicited a defensive response from America rather than just saying “yeah, let’s do that.”
America always has an excuse for why it can’t just respond in the affirmative. From asking to be released from the shackles of slavery up until today where people are asking to be treated fairly by law enforcement and the criminal justice system, the answer continues to be “well…”, followed by several decades of fighting, then an “OK, let’s try that out.” Why is it so hard to just skip the several decades of fighting and listen to black people when they plead for equality the first time?
Colin Kaepernick is the latest black leader to be ignored and shunned rather than listened to and worked with. The exact same “we agree with your message, just not your method” rhetoric was used against Martin Luther King and every other black leader before and since. It’s time to admit that it’s not how black people are saying things, but that they are saying them at all. What America is telling black people is that the only way to push for progress and equality is to state your case and we’ll mull it over for a few decades and get back to you when you’re either dead or too senile to appreciate the new, better world you helped create.
If the pattern holds, Kaepernick will be the latest in a long line of black leaders whose voices were heard on a delay instead of in real time. At this point, it’s not a matter of if Kaepernick will be honored by his country, but when. If my math is correct, America will be calling him a hero by 2037 and labeling some other young black voice as “divisive” and “anti-American” for saying the exact same thing. Rinse. Repeat.
Jeffrey Lurie’s blatant hypocrisy of praising Jenkins while condemning Kaepernick
Martin Luther King, Jr. warned us about the “I agree with your message, not your method” folks like Lurie over 50 years ago.
Philadelphia Eagles owner Jeffrey Lurie inadvertently gave a ringing endorsement of Colin Kaepernick’s National Anthem protest, while condemning it at the same time. Lurie signed off on Eagles safety Malcolm Jenkins’ protest of raising his fist in the air during the pregame Anthem, all while characterizing Kaepernick’s protest method of kneeling during the Anthem as “disrespectful.” The fairly obvious contradiction with the Eagles owner’s stance here is that without Colin Kaepernick’s method of protest, there would be no Malcolm Jenkins activism to approve of since he was inspired by Kaepernick.
“I don’t think anybody who is protesting the national anthem…is very respectful,” Lurie said in an interview with ESPN’s Tim McManus. “If that’s all their platform is, is to protest the national anthem, then what’s the proactive nature of it?”
The nature of protest is to disrupt. This concept is missed among the disrupted. They have no concept that their anger and frustration at the situation is exactly the intended purpose of the protest. Without Kaepernick’s disruption, there would be no Jenkins to find a different route to reach people like Lurie. It was Kaepernick’s protest that made people who were previously on the sidelines angry enough to oppose Kaepernick, but still find alternate ways to help his cause, albeit in less effective ways than by simply supporting him in the first place as others who were less offended by him have done.
The entire issue of respect when discussing Kaepernick’s protest is a very paternalistic attitude, basically saying “I’ll help you in your quest to be treated like a normal human being, but you have to be respectful about it and do it my way.” It disregards the lack of respect black people have received from law enforcement and the criminal justice system that is the catalyst for the Anthem protest in the first place. We are disrespected, but must show respect to those disrespecting us in order to first receive respect, apparently. It’s saying loud and clear that the respect toward the flag–despite your historic treatment by the institution represented by the flag–is much more important than your basic civil rights. That we should all show respect to the fact that others have full citizenship before we get our own.
It’s great that Lurie has thrown his support behind Jenkins and done other things to help push forward the cause of criminal justice reform. But condemning Kaepernick, who is one of the most prominent figures in this fight, does more harm than good if he truly agrees with Kaepernick’s message, but just not his method.
Martin Luther King, Jr. warned us about the Jeff Luries of the world back in 1963 when he penned a letter from a Birmingham, AL jail cell fighting against the same racial injustice that Kaepernick and scores of others have fought against for centuries.
“First, I must confess that over the past few years I have been gravely disappointed with the white moderate…who is more devoted to “order” than to justice…who constantly says: ‘I agree with you in the goal you seek, but I cannot agree with your methods of direct action’; who paternalistically believes he can set the timetable for another man’s freedom.”
If I didn’t know any better, I’d think King wrote that letter after hearing Lurie speak about Kaepernick’s protest. Of course, some messages are timeless, and continue to apply to our everyday lives because people like Lurie fail to learn from our past, and as a result, end up adopting the exact same toxic positions as the people who came before them. They claim to be on our side, but can’t let go of the paternalistic tone and general white supremacist narrative that whites know what’s best for everyone and that you have to gain civil rights on my time and my way, not your own.
Lurie could easily come out and throw his full support behind Kaepernick if he truly cared about criminal justice reform, which would be an immense step toward the real change he claims to want. Instead, he wants to do things his way, and on his timetable. Even if that means it takes longer, which is exactly the frustrating position King spoke about 50 years ago.
This isn’t a discussion about the best way to build an NFL offense, where there can be more than one good answer, or a difference of opinion on the style of some arbitrary topic. This is an issue of “Hey, can we go ahead and start treating black people equally in our society?” and the answer is supposed to be “Yes.” The answer shouldn’t be “Yes, but I’m only on board if you do it respectfully” as if there should be conditions on black equality. The white supremacy left over from centuries of dehumanization is just dripping from responses like that. As much as people see themselves as trying to help the cause, they just can’t let go of the ideas that are preventing them from fully being able to help the way we need them to.
Lurie isn’t alone in his hypocrisy. It’s actually a very common theme among people who attempt to justify the unjustifiable. He, and others, are currently trying to justify why they hate Colin Kaepernick and what he did during his protest by saying kneeling for the anthem is disrespectful, all while praising someone who is raising their fist in protest. Tommie Smith and John Carlos were suspended from the US Olympic team for giving the exact same gesture during the 1968 Olympics. The arbitrary nature of what is acceptable and what isn’t speaks to the hypocrisy inherent in opposing Kaepernick’s protest
50 years from now when racism is still alive and well, someone will sit in protest during the National Anthem, while someone else will be commended for kneeling. The contradictions continue because the justifications continue instead of facing the reality of the situation: That white supremacy still exists in this country, and people like Colin Kaepernick are trying to bring that to our attention, and a lot of people don’t like that. And whether Jeffrey Lurie wants to admit that or not, his actions and words suggest that he is among those who are uncomfortable with both Kaepernick’s method and his message.